Planning a Funeral Service For a Child
By Jason Gibson Parsons
A child's death has to be one of the most difficult
challenges a parent has ever had to face. What has to be
more troubling is trying to plan your child's funeral
service while you are still dealing with the loss.
Although it may be difficult, it is important that you
pull yourself together so that you, your family and
friends, and others whom knew the child can say your
last goodbye. Many people don't want to deal with this
right away which is why it would be a great idea to
include someone who is very close to you and trustworthy
to help you over the process of planning the funeral
service. Someone will be more than happy to help you at
a time like this.
You should start by choosing a funeral home that is
nearby so that traveling won't be an issue. The funeral
home will be able to assist you in planning the service
as well, so either way, you don't have to do this alone.
During this time you will need to decide on a burial or
cremation for the service, and if it is burial then you
will need to decide whether you want an open or closed
casket funeral. The funeral home needs to have a
comfortable and serene setting, should be of adequate
size. You shouldn't need a large funeral home for a
child. The size will also play a factor in the cost of
the services, which means the funeral home you choose
should be within your budget.
Contact your local church to arrange a date and time to
have your child's funeral service. You should also
consider the size of the church. It needs to be big
enough for all the quests who are attending the service.
If your church is not big enough, you can ask your
pastor for suggestions who will more than likely suggest
another church for you. After you have made arrangements
with the church, it wouldn't be a bad idea to ask for a
time to hold prayers and other religious means that may
help you and others to accept and cope with the lost.
Now it's time to order flowers and other memorial items
for the casket and graveside. These items can be
anything you feel with help leave warm and beautiful
memories of your child. At this time, you may even
consider burying your child's favorite toy with him/her,
or something that they may have had a special attachment
too. The funeral home will assist you in getting the
items you need for the service, so don't feel like you
are alone in this.
Once you have done all this, it is time to call up your
friends, family, relatives, and any co workers who
played a part in you or your child's life. There may be
people who didn't know your child that may just want to
come out to comfort you during such a tragic time. Ask
anyone attending if they would like to give a speech or
say something at the service. These people can help you
remember the good times and offer words of comfort to
help you deal with the pain. Once this has been taken
care of your final step is the actual event.
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