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Dealing With Grief
By Frank J Thomas
Are you at a place in your life where you dealing with
grief? There's one type of sorrow that seems so
undoable. It's the sorrow or grief that comes with
watching someone you love pass away. Personally I've
watched my father, my mother, and my wife's parents die.
Let me tell you that it doesn't get any easier. I had to
do with the grief of losing each one of them knowing
that I can never see them again. Maybe that's why
watching somebody die grieves us so much. When somebody
dies we have no control on the matter. Thus we also know
that it's irreversible.
But how do you deal with this grief? I've seen the grief
of losing a loved one completely change a person.
Usually those changes are for the worse. I think it's
important for us to all remember that we only have a
finite time to live on this earth. That finite time
could be a day or 120 years. And death never comes at a
good time. But learning to accept that death is the
completion of life, an unavoidable part of life may
help. One thing I can tell you though is not to let
guilt coming to your thoughts. You know the type of
guilt that says to you, 'you even visit them very much'.
Or 'you were very nasty to them last time you talked to
them'. Don't even accommodate these thoughts. They can
drag you down and wash you out for years to come.
Even if this is true, don't succumb to guilt. I know for
a fact that will hinder the grieving process. Also
because death cannot be helped, or cured, it makes us
feel so useless. This is another feeling that plainly
doesn't make any sense. When somebody is passing away,
there is nothing we can do about it. We may search for
the magic elixir but it just doesn't exist. So don't
allow yourself to succumb to the feeling of helplessness
or uselessness. The best thing you can do is to do
something while they're still alive or to do something
with those who are left behind. To deny that really is
being useless.
I think my final point would be to accept the fact that
you are going to grieve. You've lost someone special and
is nothing in this world it's going to change that.
Allow yourself the permission to cry. Guys this means
you too. Crying is a great way to overcome grief. A part
of us is still an emotional being and we have to satisfy
our grief and sometimes crying is the way to do it. If
you dealing with the grief of a loss when I truly do
feel for you and I pray that you grief will lessen over
time. Remember that person for the joy they brought your
life and stop grieving the loss of the person.
Frank has been an avid blogger and article author for
about two years. Check out his latest website http://www.gpscartracking.org/.
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