Dealing With Death and Dying
By Thomas Ajava
They old cliche is there are two things you can count on
in life - death and taxes. The difference between the
two is we have to deal with taxes all the time and
become somewhat numb to them. Death, on the other hand,
is something we rarely deal with and that can make it an
absolute gut punch when it rears its head.
We experience the passing of a person in two different
ways. The first is a sudden event such as when a loved
one is killed in a car crash. The second is in an
expected passing when someone slowly reaches their end
either through simply aging or a long disease such as
some forms of cancer. Each comes with its own issues,
some that can be dealt with and some that cannot.
The sudden loss is perhaps the most difficult to deal
with. One moment a loved one is there. The next they are
gone. The family and close friends of the deceased are
often simply left in shock for days on end. It is simply
too difficult of the mind to take in. There is no
opportunity to say goodbye. The mourning and funeral
period just fly by.
The inevitable loss is different for many because of the
emotions that occur with the passing. The emotions can
be very troubling because the passing usually brings
feelings of relief. Watching a loved one slowly fade
away is difficult and brutally so particularly if you
have to care for them. The feeling of relief at their
passing seems, some how, wrong and can result in massive
feelings of guilt on the part of survivors.
So, what can you do to get through these tough times?
Well, there is going to be a natural period of morning
that is unavoidable. That being said, it can be a really
smart move to seek some professional help. The
opportunity to just have someone you can talk to without
any blow back is invaluable. You are going to need to
talk to get through such times. It can shorten the
mourning period and help you deal with the feelings of
loss and guilt associated with the death of someone
close to you.
Thomas Ajava writes for FuneralServiceHomes.com - where
you can get words for funerals and other things that
will help you get through a tough time.