The Three Mourning Stages That Will
Help Me Deal With My Bereavement
By Bruce Hultgren
The grieving process for all of us is completely
different. As different as each person is to the next.
Therefore to try and give a linear piece of advice is
not a simple nor advised option. However, to break the
process down into stages or steps is very helpful.
So important is process of dealing with mourning and
dealing with death and bereavement, we should make time
to give ourselves the opportunity to go through these
stages. Failing to do this may lay down some problems
later in our lives.
What are the 3 stages?
Stage 1 - Disbelief and Shock
Did this really happen? No... really? I can't accept
that - no. Whether this is hours or weeks, it may come
upon you in varying degrees. How did they die? What was
our relationship like? The level of numbness you feel
after you've lost someone may be directly attributed to
the answers to the above questions and statements.
Family and friends can help us come through this stage
into a period of mourning at the funeral or similar
Stage 2 - Intense or acute mourning.
Some people feel physical pain as great waves of grief
wash over us and cannot seem to pass us. A pain that
fills us completely and may push us to withdraw. The
difficulty in sleeping and possible feelings of being
lonely and upset may also cause us to question our
mortality and our own death in the future.
Stage 3. Our grief is acknowledged
Once we understand and acknowledge our grief, the
journey commencing with the pain of losing someone
eventually turns into a journey of developing memories
of fondness. The person we have loved is never forgotten
and as we begin to find ourselves again, we begin to
move away from breaking down memories of the past and
moving forwards into a positive future.
The amount of time each of us suffers during these
stages is unique and is also affected by the
relationship we had with the loved one lost. Even as we
recognize that our lives will never be the same after
the event, most of us can find our desire to participate
in life again following our periods of mourning and
If you feel you can't get to this stage without help,
please don't hesitate to seek professional help.
Bruce Hultgren was suddenly affected by the tragic loss
of his Sister in a plane crash in 1999. Since that date,
Bruce has dedicated his time to helping the millions of
people around the world who meet these emotions on their
journey. Dealing with Death, Funerals, Grief and Dying.
Now an accomplished writer on the subject, Bruce has
included Funeral Memorial Angels and A collection of
articles his http://www.PocketAngels.com website to help
families celebrate, remember and go through this most
trying of times together.
He has also discovered a gift to write heartfelt verses
that can be found in his PocketAngels range.