Lost Is Lost - Bereavement Grief Is
Never A Solution
By Shanat Kuphur
Man's responses to various situations vary widely. There
are as many numbers of reactions as there are people in
this world. The response to stimulus is human and is
quite natural. But there are situations in which human
responses go beyond the control of their mind. This will
result in serious consequences and end up in various
problems that they find to solve. One of such reactions
While grief is a reaction, bereavement used to replace
grief in many circumstances. But the exact definition is
nothing but the condition that describes the loss of
something. The loss often comes from loss of profession,
status or anything that is included in man's daily life.
The reactions to bereavement or better called as
bereavement grief is truly influenced by a lot of
factors varying from hereditary influences to his
beliefs and concepts of life.
In the earlier stages of bereavement, the situation can
be handled if there is a shoulder to support at times of
losses in life. But when bereavement grief overtakes
common sense and starts dominating his knowledge level,
things go beyond control. This starts interfering with
his daily life and he starts tasting a failure in
various sectors of life.
The after effects of a prolonged period under this grief
include the failures in marital life and a total mental
depression. The situation can be brought under control
with the help of experts. There are people who are
experienced in giving counsels to the people exhibiting
bereavement grief. But when the man is not ready to give
way for such a relief, things won't work as expected.
The reasons for bereavement can be many. A death of a
close relation in the childhood can give rise to a
feeling of insecurity in children. This will give way to
a thought of everything lost in them. There can be
bereavement grief instances when the children are forced
to part their care takers. The loss of a sibling or
spouse can be the reasons for bereavement grief in grown
up people. The loss of children during the time of
divorce will have serious consequences in them. The
reasons can be the loss of a dream job or a romantic
failure. There can be bereavement grief when the people
will have to part their friends or even pet animals.
The bereavement grief can cause various symptoms in the
people who are subjected to it. This includes a fear of
everything especially coming up at night. This can be
due to a lack of security feeling in their minds. There
can be dryness of mouth or lack of sleep. The symptoms
vary completely depending on the nature in which the
grief has already originated.
Bereavement grief results in various reactions that can
affect the individuals in performing well in their life.
There can be a lack of confidence that pulls them back
and they react in a worst manner to surroundings. This
can cause disturbances even to those who are around him
and they will have to suffer a lot. This results in many
people moving away from people exhibiting bereavement
grief. The grief due to a loss can end up in further
losses in life. In other words a loss will be followed
by a series of losses if the person is not ready to give
up his grief.
But the treatment for this is not that tough. If it a
mild case of grief, even a little advice or counseling
can bring positive results. But if it is advanced to a
latter stage, the best method of treatment is hypnosis.
Hypnosis brings in a feeling of security in him. The
mind is deviated from the feeling of loss and they are
directed to do something that can bring happiness in
them. The relaxation techniques will help them to
realize the reality and accept the facts. This can help
the person to adjust himself to the actual life and thus
come out of the fear and anxieties of a lost thing in
Thus bereavement grief can be completely brought under
the control of human beings. Man and his emotions are
completely influenced by his surroundings. A slight
change in the environment can result in serious
variations in his day to day life. But if he is ready to
understand the face of life as it is presented, things
can be made to come in his way.