Emerging From Grief
By Sandy Clendenen
The grief process can be compared to the transformation
process of the butterfly. Grievers can find themselves
stuck inside the safety of the cocoon of grief. There is
a sense of feeling lost in the darkness of grief.
There is a push-pull feeling that occurs during grief.
Grievers want to move beyond their grief, but often find
themselves unable to move out of that dark but secure
place that grief can become. The butterfly's journey to
emerge from the cocoon is not an easy task. The
caterpillar, in essence, dissolves within the cocoon.
It requires effort for the butterfly to emerge and fly
into the world of possibility. The butterfly knows
instinctively that it will die if it does not take
action to leave the protection of the cocoon. It takes a
decision and action to emerge into the possibilities
beyond the cocoon of grief.
To move beyond grief is a natural process. Just as the
butterfly follows its natural process to emerge from the
cocoon, grievers have the choice to take action steps to
emerge from grief and fly into the life of possibility
Maya Angelou has said: "We delight in the beauty of the
butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone
through to achieve that beauty..."
Grief can feel very confusing and overwhelming. Grievers
can be flooded with conflicting feelings. These feelings
can leave one exhausted and vulnerable. But that urge to
move forward lives beneath all the chaos and confusion.
Moving beyond grief is not an easy journey. Allow the
image of the magnificent butterfly to guide you through
and beyond your grief.
Sandy Clendenen provides resources and services to
empower widows who are feeling stuck in their grief to
move beyond grief and into the new life they deserve to
live. For more information, please go to http://widowspath.com