Grief - How To Deal With It
By Pradeep Chadha
Grief is an integral part of almost everyone's life.
Whenever you go through the loss of a near and dear one,
you go through a grief process. Grief is experienced
physically and psychologically. Crying is an integral
part of grief process. In cultures where crying is
acceptable, loss is borne more readily than in those in
which crying is discouraged.
When we have lost a near and dear one, it is initially
difficult to accept the loss. This is natural. As time
passes, the loss becomes easier to bear from a
psychological perspective. But emotional expression is
still an integral part of grieving. If the person is not
allowed to grieve due to societal or family pressures,
other problems like depression or anxiety may arise.
From Nature's perspective, once someone has died, it is
important that the(unconscious) mind accepts the loss.
Once the unconscious mind accepts the loss after going
through crying and sadness , life becomes easier.
A simple exercise will bring benefit to all those who
want to deal with grief of a loved one.
Exercise: Close your eyes and imagine seeing the lost
loved one in front of you. Talk to the person in your
mind as if the person was standing in front of you.
Treat the image as a real person. Having finished saying
what you would like to say, bid the person GOODBYE and
see the person go. You will notice feeling like crying
or feeling sad.
Do this exercise everyday at least once, preferably
before sleeping, till you start to feel comfortable
seeing the person go. By that time your sadness will
have reduced to a remarkable extent. This exercise can
save you many months of counseling and a lot of money if
done as advised.
Pradeep K Chadha is a psychiatrist who specialises in
helping people with meditation and imagery. He is based
in Dublin,Ireland. He is the author of-The Stress
Barrier-Nature's Way To Overcoming Stress, published by
Blackhall Publishing, Dublin. His second book- The Road
To A Happy Life- is being published this year by Raider
Publishing in the UK, USA and Canada. His website
address is: http://www.drpkchadha.com